When in Doubt, Hit Play

There’s something deeply underrated about a good playlist. It’s the thing no one really talks about when planning an event, what with all the focus on food, drinks, and whatever logistical crisis pops up an hour before guests arrive, but music? Music is the quiet hero. The ultimate social buffer. The one guest that never makes things weird.

At gatherings where people don’t really know each other or are only connected by a mutual acquaintance and a cheese board, music works its subtle magic. It smooths over awkward silences, takes the pressure off forced conversation, and makes everyone feel like they’re part of something, even if they’re just nervously sipping rosé and wondering if it’s too early to leave. A great playlist hums along in the background, offering atmosphere without demanding attention, which is exactly what you need when you’re trying to make small talk without spiraling.

But music isn’t just a crutch for quiet rooms. For groups that do know each other, it’s the unspoken language. The inside joke. The reason someone shouts, “Oh my god, THIS song!” like they’ve just discovered fire. It becomes the backdrop for bad dance moves, shout-singing in the kitchen, and the emotional peak of an otherwise average Tuesday night.

My own taste in music is... let’s say eclectic. Some days I want breezy throwbacks that make me feel like I’m starring in a coming-of-age movie montage. Some days it’s sad acoustic stuff that sounds like it was recorded in a cabin by someone who’s never seen the sun. And occasionally, I require a full-blown pop anthem just to emotionally prep for the grocery store.

And while screamy rock may not be everyone’s idea of ambiance, I love a good screamy song. There’s something about that chaotic, slightly unhinged energy that just clears the emotional slate. It’s not background music; it’s therapy with a beat.

And when words fail (because let’s be honest, sometimes they do), music steps in and says what we can’t. One of my favorite bands, Marianas Trench, says it best: “When the words you want are out of reach, but they've been so loud.” Oof. Right in the feels.

So if you’re planning a gathering, don’t underestimate the power of a thoughtfully crafted playlist. It’s the unsung hero (pun 100% intended) that can carry the energy of the entire event. Choose the vibe or pass the Bluetooth to someone who knows their way around a Spotify playlist. Even better, try what my family does: start a song circle. Everyone takes turns picking a tune. You’ll laugh, discover some new favorites, maybe question a few choices (in a lovingly judgmental way), and connect in a way small talk can’t.

One song at a time.